Certain decisions we make could take us to different places in our lives. Not only that, they may cause changes that skyrocket minor plans or keep some balls moving in the right direction. Some other times, they’d stunt our growth or keep us frozen in one direction.
One of such life altering decisions would be to relocate.
There are also major decisions too like changing jobs, getting married, indulging a habit, settling for a course in the university, getting a buzzcut or some bizarre haircut/ hairstyle. Even certain kinds of tattoos would be considered life altering!
For relocation, clearly it means a change in location. Implying, leaving a familiar surrounding for a less familiar one. The opposite exists for only very, very few cases.
Different reasons could influence a person into deciding to vacate their current abode, their comfy safety net, to another, unprecedentedly or planned. It could be for good, a dream come true, or it could be a solution for that time.
It could be as a result of change of jobs or status. Frustration, even, can lead one to leave a place, or just the need for a change that requires no explanations. PS: One of those new-year-new-everything resolutions we drastically make could spur this line of action too!
For me, the reason I had to relocate to a different city was for a new job. But whichever be the case, here are a few pointers to guide you ease up the transition, should you decide to relocate.
A Guide for when you’re ready to Relocate
#1 Have a positive mindset and be tolerant: Spending little over 6months living at a place could have you already forming habits and tricks to occupy and manage your time well. It’s possible to plan long term residency around a location especially when you barely have strong negative opinions about residing there or the residents themselves.
Now imagine having to leave that location for a different place altogether. It’s a huge step and one that’s big and tough. The idea itself can be daunting and it may never have crossed your mind independently to relocate.
But if it’s a move that has to be made, it has to be made. Being judgmental about the choice of location (if you didn’t select yourself, or if it only was the option within your budget) would slow the adjusting process.
Like someone I know would say, see all of the reasons that it could work well for you, because if you think about what might not work, or what could go wrong, it’ll scare you more about the decision, no matter how planned or well thought out it is.
The worse, again, is you’ll be filled with so much anxiety, it could sabotage your being objective and open minded to the new location and people.
#2 Study the new district pre-relocation: Before you relocate to the new city/town, it’s best you scope the town for a bit. It can be via google, enquiring from people/ friends familiar with the location or planning a brief trip to the neighborhood and drilling the locals if possible.
This is very important if you wish to reduce the amount of shock you’d experience when changing places.
Your survey should be thorough. Compare all you know about your current residence with the impending one, and try to fill in the gaps with as much information as you can get. Until you know just as much about the new place, like you do your current place.
There’s great discomfort that comes with negative surprises, especially when you’re a walking bag of nervousness.
Your expectation should be that before you finally move in to the location, you’d have known the proximity to supermarkets, barber shop, banks, the effects of the weather on the surrounding, the best network providers for data services, and other information you find dear.
You would be able to manage your disappointment(s) well (if any) by the time you decide to actually relocate. And very likely, you could arm yourself with contingencies.
#3 Make Estimated Cost Evaluations: As you learn to manage your disappointment should there be any, you should also take note to manage your hopes. Whether you pay a visit to the new location before moving or not, have it in mind about the cost of living. It’s possible prices of food stuff, home maintenance items and utilities may vary from that of your current residence.
Suit yourself up with a budget you would need specifically to relocate, so you’re not forced to go frugal after moving. And when planning your pending expenses, add a few extras to the calculations generously.
Don’t assume that since you’re changing locations within the same region, prices may stay same. Or since you’re moving to another state within the country, the difference in prices may not be so symbolic.
You’d be surprised to learn that as certain things are cheaper at certain places than other places, there could also be the items that are more expensive, and vice versa.
If you planned for a higher budget and it turned out to be an overestimation after the relocation activity, it’s still a win-win for you.
#4 Search for Connections: This is not unnecessary. Usually when people leave neighborhoods for different reasons, it gets harder to stay in touch. They keep less and less contacts with friends and people with whom they formed weak bonds with, and eventually fizzle out of minds.
Your new location might be where they moved to years and years ago when you both lost touch. Haha. Or maybe the district around their residence. Keep your pride aside, search through Facebook or Instagram nearby locations and see who live nearby, and reach out.
This, again, reduces the shock experienced while changing places. Plus, they could be functional in guiding you to the best spots around town or help you grow a new network and temporarily keep you stable. They could be your plug!
One thing you must remember is, relocation isn’t a negative move. It mostly means you’re growing.
To have a little more confidence as you relocate, remember these few tips. Luckily most of any information we may need can be gotten over the internet.
One offside though, validation would need to be made in person so as not to be misled by the internet. Because as we well know, the internet can romanticize the dullest looking cafè.